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Livyjr
Apr 2 2012, 05:38 AM
ALPHA ....

RLA2
 

There is no suggestion of "making" one or more parts of yourself making other parts of your self or your whole self do anything.

There is only the invitation to "let" all parts of your self Be...



Livyjr
 

So if one has a violent temper, that should be allowed "to be"?


RLA2
 

"Having a violent temper" is a sign of not having let parts of one's self be for extended times in the past.


Livyjr
 

All well and good, rla, what it is a sign of, BUT ....

WHAT should one do with it?



RLA2
 

Various kinds of psychosocial skills training programs have been developed and evaluated relative to Anger Management during the past three decades.

The context in which such programs are provided and the quality of the program affects the outcome.

Remediation and rehabilitation is better than nothing but prevention and developmental wellness programing in the social system is more effective.



Livyjr
 

Why not just work to lose the bad temper?

Simply cease having one?

Isn't that a viable option?

Invest in the loss of the bad temper?



RLA2
 

If the person has a high level of self-awareness and acknowledges that the excessive anger is getting in his or her way and has some understanding of what triggers the anger responses and is willing to learn how to reduce the intensity and frequency of the responses, this kind of direct approach may be feasible.

In general, focusing on getting rid of a negative is not the best approach.



Livyjr
 

However, investing in loss has been a viable technique in self-improvement for hundreds of years, if not longer, rla ...

Just not in this culture, apparently ...

There is no coddling in investing in loss, which perhaps is why it is not accepted in this country ...



RLA2
 

I may be missunderstanding what you mean.

A couple of examples of, "investing in a loss" would be helpfull.



It really should be expressed as "investing in the loss of _________", not "investing in a loss" ....

How it is stated to oneself is as important as actually making the effort, since how it is expressed to oneself determines how the effort will go ...

By expressing the goal or desire incorrectly to oneself, or having it incorrectly presented, can make all the difference between success and failure ...

And if one does not focus on getting rid of a negative, how else is one supposed to accomplish the task?

If one does not focus on getting rid of a negative, then it would seem that one has neither incentive to begin, nor direction to head in ...

And so ...
The consequencies of not coping adequatly with one's situation
will eventually lead one to seek relief or someone in the person's situation that is being negatively impacted will seek an intervention. The traditional, "medical model has been to
diagnosis the problem and prescribe a solution (intervention).
This may be by self-diagnosis, by the authority figure in the situation or by a professional helper. Such professional interventions have traditionally been psychopharmacological,
psychotherapeutic or a combination. Psychosocial skills training or coping skills training developed as an alternative approach to counseling and psychotherapy. This methodology
was incorporated into the Wellness Movement and other
self-help and mutual self-help group movements that emphasized social support. A parallel movement that has
been going on in the US is the growth of Yoga and various
martial arts programs that combine physical fitness training
with psychosocial and spiritual components of personal growth.

One of the more popular coping skills training programs has been Assertiveness Training. It is based on a similar rationale
as the Drama Triange Intervention. Analyses of human relations problems reveals that they are most often caused by
one or more persons in the situation habitually responding in a manner that is too aggressive, too passive or too passive-aggressive and not sufficiently assertive.

In order to respond assertively and maintain the relationship
a person must communicate genuine empathy and respect to
the Other and protect his or her own space. This usually involves stating clearing what your feelings and expectations
are in a manner that expresses a "rights-bearing" attitude.
The assertive person is able to take care of his or her self and reach out to others.
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