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Waiting for death
Topic Started: Feb 8 2017, 04:03 AM (1,199 Views)
Alli
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My cousin has been in Hospice now for 2 weeks. She has end stage Pancreatic Cancer She has a lovely room and surroundings.... Almost overnight her condition deteriorated. She is now incoherent, from Saturday to Sunday she has gone blind. She is just skin on bones.. We thought she would have passed but I believe she waited for her brother to arrive from Australia.For a family going through the last stages of life it has to be one of the most painful emotionally wrought experiences. I received an email from my sister this morning detailing her condition. I was in tears for a long time. You think back when you were children , the summers spent. Sampling Polish Cigarettes my uncle had stashed but we found... and smoked, were we ever sick! All these thoughts come pouring through your mind.. To see her suffering is unbearable, to see my aunt so distraught, if she could she would gladly trade places... If they could just give her a little extra....... she could close her eyes and sleep eternally..... It seems she may have only hours Her organs are shutting down..... I hope she has a Peaceful transition......
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Olive Oil
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I'm so sorry to hear about your dear cousin. I do believe that the dying often wait for the right time. The Hospice nurse that tended my Mother told me she was looking for permission to die. When I told her she could let go of life, she was at peace and died shortly after.
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David
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I've seen that happen more times than I can count. I've told family members to tell their dying family member to just let go. That it's okay and everyone will be fine. Within 10-15 minutes, they're gone. It's important for them to know their family will be okay.
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agate
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Alli I have been there and do hope that your lovely memories help ease the pain.

I too had the same experience with my mother . I told her when she was ready she could go and shortly after she was gone.
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Alli, may you find some peace also once your cousin has transitioned. I like that term.
When my father was so ill my mother had some private time with him the day he died, told him she loved him, cried, held him, gave him permission to leave. We all had said the same. He waited for as many of us could be there before the end - or beginning.
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Delphi51
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Feb 8 2017, 05:01 AM
I've seen that happen more times than I can count. I've told family members to tell their dying family member to just let go. That it's okay and everyone will be fine. Within 10-15 minutes, they're gone. It's important for them to know their family will be okay.
I've wondered about that for quite a while. Thank you.
I was with my dad when he died in long term care after nurses called me, saying death was imminent. He was very tough and was somehow hanging on to life. I said to him that it was okay to go. One more breath and he was gone.
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wildie
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My son had his diebetis cured by having a pancreatic transplant. I had two cousins die of pancreatic cancer and I wonder why they don't use transplants to cure this type of cancer?
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Trotsky
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wildie,
I may be wrong here but I think a pancreatic transplant to cure diabetes is usually the implanting of stem cells that grow to replace the dead or absent islet cells in the pancreas (that's what Mary Tyler Moore did.
Even when using a donor pancreas or part of one, the old pancreas is left in place.

Pancreatic cancer is usually spread outside of the pancreas at time of diagnosis.
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Feb 10 2017, 05:20 AM
wildie,
I may be wrong here but I think a pancreatic transplant to cure diabetes is usually the implanting of stem cells that grow to replace the dead or absent islet cells in the pancreas (that's what Mary Tyler Moore did.
Even when using a donor pancreas or part of one, the old pancreas is left in place.

Pancreatic cancer is usually spread outside of the pancreas at time of diagnosis.
You are correct that the old pancreas is left in place. In my son's case he was given both a kidney and a pancreatic transplant. Unfortunately the pancreas failed and had to be removed. He was back to being diabetic for over a year before another suitable pancreas became available. the second one has functioned well.
As things now stand, my son has 3 kidneys and 2 pancreas.
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Alli
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My cousin was diagnosed with Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer... She thought she had the flu pain in her stomach nothing too serious she went to the Dr found her lymph glands were enlarged she had some further tests and it was found it had spread to her liver and other soft tissue bones nothing could be done, she had mild chemo but it made her terribly ill. she opted to stop she wanted quality.. This disease has taken less than a year to take her.
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Trotsky
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I marvel at Ruth Bader Ginsberg's survival 7 years after surgery for pancreatic cancer.
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Alli
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My cousin died Sunday evening after 9 months... what an awful cancer......
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I'm so sorry.
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Is there a God?
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So Sorry Ali, pancreatic cancer advances quickly. My neighbour passed a couple months ago only lived 6 weeks after diagnosis. Her husband mentioned the Drs. said 3 months, which was not the case with her. Perhaps timing depends on the advancement at time of diagnosis.

Is there a God?

He works in mysterious ways Durgan!
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