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And in The House of Dogs
Topic Started: Apr 4 2010, 12:03 AM (1,882 Views)
Darcie
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Pat, I am sorry. Your request that whatever was best was very loving. From the sound of it you have cared for your brother your whole life. It was good that he knew his pal was looked after. 1mr
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Pat: you know how very sorry I am to hear your news, you have been a wonderful support for Ray over the years, being there for him all the time. He knew this and when you let him know his cat was going to be okay you brought peace to him. The next days will be hard Pat, I wish I could be with you to help you through this sad time, know that I am only a call away any time of day or night You are a very special person and have shown this to the members on this board by your caring actions, sense of humour and your dedication to Ray.I feel so privileged to have a special friend like you, time will heal Pat and know that we are all thinking of you at your time of loss.
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January
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Pat;

I am so sorry for your loss.
I know we talked about the possibility of this being the outcome and even though one thinks and hopes for the best, one can never be prepared to hear those words, that he is gone. Rest in that you know he is in a better place.

Bless you for being the good sister that you were to him.

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1mr I am so sorry, Pat. You were a wonderful sister. I wish you were mine.
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goldengal
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I cannot thank you all enough for your loving and caring thoughts. We have to realize not everyone can live the way WE think they should.

In his early life my brother fell in love with a woman who was married and had a young daughter. They worked for the same company and went to church every sunday. One day
Ray called her, and discovered she had committed suicide. It changed his life forever.

Ray had a personality disorder, along with grand mal epilepsy.

One thing I woud like to say is we should never turn our backs on others who do not live as we do.

Take care.
Pat
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lilal
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Pat - May the peace which comes from your memories comfort you now and in the days ahead.
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erka
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Pat: I am so sorry to hear of your brother's passing. You are a very loving, caring person and Ray was very lucky to have you as his sister.
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Vanilla
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Pat, I'm so sorry to hear that your brother Ray lost his fight and has now passed away, you done all that you you could for him in his last few days, he couldn't have wished for a more loving and caring sister as you were to him. 1mr
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Pat my sincere condolences during this difficult time. You were a wonderful sibling, may time ease your pain.
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asthmaticus
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Pat, my Condolences for you at this most difficult time.

Ray is now at peace, free from pain, and in time,
the good memories will bring you solace.

Take Care,
take time to Rest.
Hugs

e-mail has been sent.
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Bitsy
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Pat, I was so sorry to read about Ray, even though I feel certain that, under the circumstnces, was what he would have wanted. As difficult, as the last couple of weeks have been on you be eternally thankful that he died knowing you loved him and that you were there for him.
Edited by Bitsy, Apr 17 2010, 07:35 AM.
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Pat: sorry to hear this sad news. But glad that you felt at peace with your brother the last time you saw him.

Take care of yourself.

love, nainai
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goldengal
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Thank you everyone for your kind words. Yesterday I just was not functional at all. Kim warned me not to try driving anywhere, and I am sure it was good advice.

This morning Kim and I were out of here at 7, and drove first to Ray's apartment where we loaded up a little stuff, but our main purpose was to ensure I had given the Funeral Director the correct SIN which thank goodness I had. Then we headed to his bank. Turns out where he has been banking for the past dozen years was never his main bank , but rather a branch so we had to go to the main one. Since there was no will, and he had little funds, we believe they will release the money to compensate me for some of the funeral charges. I pointed out there will be one more OAS/GIS cheque deposited at the end of the month so we will wait until then to address the situation. The woman we met with said she is sure her Manager will approve it since so little money is involved, and I am the next of kin. That a hullabalu that turned out to be as my mother was on the same account, and she died in '82. Thankfully, I had found her actual Death Certificate which we took to the bank.

Today is the post Easter dinner since Gary and Kim were in Cancun at Easter, and somehow we have ended up with 18 guests. I made 2 broccoli casseroles and a rutabaga casserole last night, but realize that will likely not be enough so just put together another broccoli casserole as everyone loves it and especially the older teenage boys, and we have 4 of them. Kim had told me not to bother making peanut butter cream pies which I usually do, but then at the last minute suggested I could make one. Started on it and discovered I have no cream cheese so Kim is being the gofer. My SIL is a chef extraordinaire and makes many appetizers, and we have a gigantic roast - but is it big enough for 18? Usually we have a turkey and a roast that size. Think he better carve smaller portions today.

Darcie ..... If you by any chance read here, I wonder what happens in your building when someone passes and there is no one to remove the furniture. It is not worth anything, and I think the maintenance people likely have to do that on occasion as the last Supt. gave Ray a few of the pieces he has.

Again, thank you for your sympathy.

Take care,
Pat
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Pat -

When you are feeling back to normal, no need to hurry, would you please post your broccoli cassarole recipe?

As for the furniture, perhaps some charitable organization would come to get it if the manintenance people do not have some sort of storeroom.
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Darcie
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Hi Pat, when I am sad about something I cook and bake, maybe it will be as therapeutic for you as it is with me. Just a word, you are doing a lot and it sounds as if you have nervous energy, please try to rest in between your bouts of work.

I have no idea what the law is here in Ontario, but I do know that the apartment of my neighbour has been left intact since her death. Maybe the executor was not her daugthter that used to come and visit with her. Maybe she had a will, I don't know, but I do know that one son of a gentleman who died asked where he could send the furniture. I had suggested Goodwill and I know that he arranged for someone to take it all there.

I don't know many of the organizations here, and I have no idea who picks up or even if they do. I would phone Goodwill and ask.

Your meal sounds great.
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