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Time to say Goodbye
Topic Started: Jul 15 2010, 08:18 PM (151 Views)
sunniblu
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We need to put down our beloved pooch later this week ... not sure how I will handle the grief b/c he's been a member of our family for so long (13 yrs.) For the last year or so family members have been pushing for us to get another dog b/c they think that's what we need. However, for a number of reasons we're not ready to accept another pet (also have a cat) and I'm not sure when we will be. Wish that others would respect our decision b/c in my view pet ownership (esp. a dog) is a huge responsibility. Sorry, just had to vent a little.
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goldengal
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Hi Sunniblu ..... How wonderful that you have had your beloved pooch for 13 years. Over the years we had two who reached that age.

I do agree with you that pets, and especially dogs because they rely on us more than cats in many respects (have had both), are a huge responsibility and especially as we get older. I have some friends who had one dog and could never bear to get another after their loss whereas we always had a puppy within 6 weeks or so. As with everything in life, we are all different and what works for one doesn't always work for another. You just go with what seems right for you.

I am sorry for your pending loss, and I hope family members can understand your grief and the fact that you need to decide what is right for you at this particular time.

Take care,
Pat
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FuzzyO
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I'm sorry that you are facing such a huge loss sunniblu and I agree with everything that Goldengal says. I'm not at all sure that I will get another dog when Becky is gone. In many ways I'd love to of course, but as you say it is a major responsibility.
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Vanilla
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Sunniblu, sorry to hear the sad news that you will be losing your beloved pet soon, many will say 13 is a good age, but when we lose our pet, age is immaterial. I know that only too well when I lost my 15 year old a year ago Easter Saturday.

You, and only you will know when you are ready for another pet to join the family, not your well meaning family members.
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angora
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Im sorry that you are going through this sad time, sunniblu. You will know for yourself if and when you should get another dog - maybe never. But, you will know what is right for you and it is no one's business but yours.
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Liz
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Sunniblu, what a sad time it is for you and yours at the present time. Although my experience is with felines, I went through the very same thing a year and a half ago when suddenly it was very evident that one of "my boys", Comet, was in renal failure. I struggled with the decision to get another older cat shortly after Comet left Cricket and I. I continue to struggle with that decision. There isn't a day that goes by that I question my decision not to have brought another cat into our home. Many friends and acquaintances have suggested that I welcome another but ultimately the decision is mine to make and at present, my decision has remained that Cricket shall remain an "only child".

Welcoming a new pet into your home is a very big decision to make and one that ultimately lasts many years. Please be kind to yourself when making your decision.
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Very sorry for your impending loss. I agree with what all the other have said.
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Please accept my sympathy as well. It's heartwrenching saying goodbye to our loyal friends. I agree with the others -- you'll know if and when it's time to open your heart to another.
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Sunniblu I to am sad to hear what you are facing. It is so hard to give up our pets. It is only you that can make a decison about wether there will be
another or not and hopefully friends & family will respect your choice.
My thoughts will be with you :big hug:
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sunniblu
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Thanks everyone for your the very kind wishes and for the advice also. We've given this a lot of thought and believe we are doing what is best at this time. Besides, if we get lonely we can always visit one of our "other" canine family members... 2 pointers, 2 greyhounds and a great dane and a lab :)
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erka
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Sunniblu: Thinking of you. I have gone through the same decision many times.

Very good advice given here and I agree with them.
Edited by erka, Jul 17 2010, 06:33 AM.
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Kahu
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It really is heart wrenching ..... we had a much loved 'grandson' Bull ........ who reached the grand old age of 15 but developed the canine version of MS.
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asthmaticus
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Sunniblu,
My Condolences on losing an important member of your family.
Remember, you are doing this out of love.
Hugs.

I've had to do it 5 times, and I still cry when I think of my beloved pets last time cuddled in my arms, so they would not be afraid.
The Last time I was not given the consolation of
someday having another. Dr.'s won't allow it.
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Lark
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Sunniblu, thinking of you at this difficult time. So hard to let go of your beloved friend of 13 years. The memories will live on....lee
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Sorry to hear of your upcoming loss. We have done it twice and it doesn't get easier. Shadow is 10 so I guess we will have to face it again within the next 3 to 4 years.

Dogs are the greatest!
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