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| Topic Started: Mar 2 2016, 08:05 AM (437 Views) | |
| swing | Mar 2 2016, 08:05 AM Post #1 |
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I'm on a rant ~ our daughter who spends her life planning her next trip, just texted her dad, yes her dad, as he's EASY! It's their 10th anniversary in May, she's booked four days in Vancouver, on the assumption we will kid and dog sit. Am I wrong to think she should've consulted with us first? We have nothing planned but what if we did?? In her mind and she has a point, our lives have been focused on her brother with all his issues and she feels slighted! It would not be any different if it were her with the issues. She's 44 get over it! |
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| Darcie | Mar 3 2016, 02:19 PM Post #31 |
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We are all very close, and talk to each other all the time. My sister and I talk every day, she lives in Calgary, my daughter in Vancouver and I talk at least 4 times a week as I do the other two in Montreal. I guess we are closer than many who are physically close, we are close in all the other ways. I figure my kids deserve to live their lives without me in their back pocket. Edited by Darcie, Mar 3 2016, 03:56 PM.
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| Darcie | Mar 3 2016, 02:22 PM Post #32 |
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You are right on Swing, it is called consideration. |
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| angora | Mar 4 2016, 03:57 AM Post #33 |
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You and all of we mothers& fathers deserve courtesy in all our dealings with our kids. In my case we always try to extend the courtesy we would to acquaintances to each other. Some fails but we still keep trying. Swing, I was speaking in general about signing up for the tour. I certainly didn't have you in mind since you are one of the kind of parents that I most admire. :) |
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| swing | Mar 4 2016, 06:51 AM Post #34 |
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Our daughter has always been a very independent girl. She also lived in T.O. for 20 years before moving back west to Calgary. I find instead of supporting us with the issues we've encountered with her brother, she's resentful and judgmental, creating somewhat of a division in the family. If I say anything to her regarding this latest issue, she will explode saying we're always supportive of him but not her! Years ago she saw a therapist in T.O. due to work related issues. This woman studied at the Adler school of Therapy ( I am not familiar with this, nor have i researched it) however I do know the therapist closed off her "empathy gland"! This woman had a son that was a drug addict. She would walk over him in the morning on the street in T.O. enroute to work. Our daughter kept saying we should do this with her brother, advice from her therapist. Number one, her brother was not a drug addict, and # 2 we had him to Drs. and in therapy at age 14. It was only when he realized at age 36 he had to get help, he admitted himself, since then it's been a trial and error of perscription drugs! He now seems to be doing well mentally on the present drug, but the pneumonia has taken it's toll with fatigue! I'm becoming exhausted trying to be the peace maker, and don't need the stress at age 70. An invitation was issued for Easter for Dh and me only. They won't come here as long as son is living at home, Thanksgiving they stayed at the Westin ~ so be it! Edited by swing, Mar 4 2016, 06:53 AM.
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| Darcie | Mar 4 2016, 07:06 AM Post #35 |
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Swing - this is sad to hear. She may grow up emotionally eventually and be able to accept people as they are instead of trying to control what they should be in her image. This is the one that didn't ask if you were available? She does need to grow up. Edited by Darcie, Mar 4 2016, 07:08 AM.
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| swing | Mar 4 2016, 12:35 PM Post #36 |
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One of the same Darcie only have two children a daughter and son! |
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| Shorty | Mar 4 2016, 01:15 PM Post #37 |
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Swing, you have the right to expect respect. I'd feel the same way. Then I'd still do the babysitting. I've been there for them financially but not if they're getting themselves in trouble by being shopaholics, etc. Also a strong hint that they wanted to send two or three of the kids for a few weeks in the summer was shut down. I don't have the patience for a spoiled five year old or a cranky pre-teen. One week tops. Since its a second marriage, I don't feel right in asking my husband for this either. He also limits the time his grandkids are here. Edited by Shorty, Mar 4 2016, 01:16 PM.
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