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| Topic Started: Jul 15 2016, 06:32 AM (1,005 Views) | |
| yaya | Jul 15 2016, 06:32 AM Post #1 |
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What are your thoughts about a woman in her 60's receiving a wedding invitation to her only and not including 'and guest'? |
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| Dialtone | Jul 16 2016, 05:58 AM Post #16 |
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I've been married twice, both a civil ceremony and both with no fanfare or gifts.. just the way it was planned. The divorce rate in NA is close to 50%, so spending thousands on a one day party for many people you'll probably never see again is not a wise investment . Swing, I was brought up to say Thanks for things received, and I expect the same in return. IMO, it's today's entitled kids and expectations of receiving everything for free, ( and perhaps a reflection on the parents ) when people don't says Thanks. |
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| campy | Jul 16 2016, 06:45 AM Post #17 |
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At my age any wedding invitation I get I consider a bonus. When you get an invite this is what the host wants. Probably very, very, informal affair. Just old friends. |
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| swing | Jul 16 2016, 09:24 AM Post #18 |
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Swing, I was brought up to say Thanks for things received, and I expect the same in return. IMO, it's today's entitled kids and expectations of receiving everything for free, ( and perhaps a reflection on the parents ) when people don't says Thanks. I agree, I'm big on Please and Thank you and instilled such in my kids. They always acknowledged gifts with Thanks or sent notes to their grandparents. Ignoring receipt of a gift in my opinion is disrespectful and rude, represents entitlement and poor upbringing. |
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| friendshipgal | Jul 16 2016, 01:32 PM Post #19 |
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I give a gift even if we don't attend. I will not go to a destination wedding, IMO it's pretty thoughtless and shallow to expect people to shell out for a big trip like that... I really don't like the Italian weddings were you are expected to give enough money to cover the cost of the meal - plus.... I don't, I give some money because these days people have been living together and allready have all the toasters they need. :)- |
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| Shorty | Jul 16 2016, 01:41 PM Post #20 |
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Hmm, are they inviting just because they want a present and covering their asses with a singular invite so you won't attend. My new philosophy based on this is if you don't attend, no present unless they are SPECIAL to you. Some people just invite you because they feel they have to. They don't really want you there. |
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| campy | Jul 16 2016, 02:31 PM Post #21 |
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That is funny. Maybe they want you there but don't like your 'guest'.? |
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| goldengal | Jul 16 2016, 10:58 PM Post #22 |
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It is not just Italian weddings where money is expected and enough to cover the meal too. We have given nothing but money since the 80s. As you pointed out, so many have lived together and often for years and already have all the household items one needs. Take care. Pat |
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| yaya | Jul 17 2016, 01:40 AM Post #23 |
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Thank you all for your comments. I decided to rsvp that I would not be attending. I did send a monetary gift although it was smaller than it would have been if I had attended. |
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| angora | Jul 17 2016, 01:59 AM Post #24 |
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Probably the most gracious thing to do, yaya. Feel good about your choice. :) |
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| Olive Oil | Jul 17 2016, 04:42 AM Post #25 |
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I am also dismayed at the lack of manners or appreciation. Last Christmas, my niece sent me to an out of the way store to buy Princess gowns for her two kids. After Christmas, I did not hear a word from her. We are on Facebook together and it would have been so easy for her to say Thanks or that the kids liked them. I would have been so thrilled if she had messaged me a picture of them wearing the dresses but even a thank you would have been enough. I think it's important for kids to learn manners early in life. Thank yous are very important whether it be for a gift or a simple opening of a door, etc. Maybe some people just assume that those of us who live alone will not have a guest or escort to a wedding. Also some people are clueless about sending out invitations and don't think to mention a guest or how many are coming, |
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| yaya | Jul 18 2016, 02:54 AM Post #26 |
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I always told my children that PLEASE and THANK YOU were the most important words in the English language and that these words were recognized all over the world even in English and would help you along the way in your life. I still believe that. Olive Oil, I might have sent her a message on FB to ask if she received the gifts for the children that you sent because you hadn't heard from her. I wonder what her reply would have been knowing that the world is on FB. I wouldn't send any more gifts if I was you. |
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| swing | Jul 18 2016, 08:19 AM Post #27 |
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I think it's important for kids to learn manners early in life. Thank yous are very important whether it be for a gift or a simple opening of a door, etc. I so agree. Another lady and I managed the Business Centre at the bank I was employed with. We were in charge of the cash ordering, shipping etc., and the tellers came to us for their cash orders. One girl would never say Please or Thank you. She in turn would holler, "I need 100x50" or whatever her requirement was that day. I finally said to her one day, is that with a Please, Louise??? She got the message, but then in defiance would purposely revert to her prior behaviour! |
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| yaya | Aug 16 2016, 05:00 AM Post #28 |
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Update: I found out from a cousin that attended that there were about 200 people in attendance. So if my invitation had said 'and guest', another person would not have made a difference. They have cashed my cheque. I wonder if I will receive a 'thank you' card. |
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| blizzard | Aug 16 2016, 05:34 AM Post #29 |
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I certainly hope so! When my D married I insisted she and her DH write out personal thank you cards as soon as they were home from their short honeymoon. Which they did, and entrusted to my care to mail and/or deliver. Six months later I came across the envelopes I had promised to personally deliver to family. I did not have to do this, it was just my way of helping. I felt so foolish after insisting personal notes had been sent. |
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| yaya | Aug 16 2016, 06:50 AM Post #30 |
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I am not holding my breathe to receive a 'thank you' from this woman. And since I am already disappointed in her, I won't be surprised. |
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