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Your thoughts on Limerence; e.g. having a "Crush" or "Crushing"
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aphexsam	Sep 28 2010, 02:17 PM Post #16
Woof Woof Woofies! Posts: 705 Group: Members Member #8 Joined: July 20, 2010	I've been practising for the past half an hour (An exageration, morel ike 15 minutes :P) how to pull a smile that doesn't look like I'm a serial killer but doesn't look put on. Screw it, I'm just going to give her a natural smile. Now back to working out :P, no one likes a skinny corpse. She's amazing!.



TheMonty646	Sep 28 2010, 02:57 PM Post #17
Chicka Bow! Posts: 1,383 Group: Members Member #54 Joined: July 29, 2010	aphexsam Sep 28 2010, 03:17 PM I've been practising for the past half an hour (An exageration, morel ike 15 minutes :P) how to pull a smile that doesn't look like I'm a serial killer but doesn't look put on. Screw it, I'm just going to give her a natural smile. Now back to working out :P, no one likes a skinny corpse. She's amazing!. Btw, if you bothered to read my last post (end of page 1), she said yes. fist pump



AndMyAxe414	Sep 28 2010, 07:47 PM Post #18
Chicka Bow! Posts: 1,713 Group: Banned Member #3 Joined: July 20, 2010	aphexsam Sep 28 2010, 07:17 PM I've been practising for the past half an hour (An exageration, morel ike 15 minutes :P) how to pull a smile that doesn't look like I'm a serial killer but doesn't look put on. Screw it, I'm just going to give her a natural smile. Now back to working out :P, no one likes a skinny corpse. She's amazing!. From my experience, women love the "skinny corpse" look.



aphexsam	Sep 29 2010, 02:01 AM Post #19
Woof Woof Woofies! Posts: 705 Group: Members Member #8 Joined: July 20, 2010	ongratulations TheMonty, I did read it. I was thinking of saying good luck but then if it didn't work out -I'd look like an asshole haha. I'm glad it did :P. @AndmyAxe Are you being sarcastic or not. I have a theory that your either the nicest guy pretending to be an asshole or the biggest asshole pretending to be a nice guy.



Monstarcookie	Sep 29 2010, 03:03 AM Post #20
Posts: 2,345 Group: Moderator Member #4 Joined: July 20, 2010	Aaaawh at least nilk got to hug her crush! D: As for monty....CONGRATULATIONS!!!!I hope you will be very happy together ^^ Axe/aphex....meh, could be just me but I care more about the face of the guy than the body. Male bodies are generally boring (I'm sorry....I find curves and forms interesting, men are generally very straight and not a lot of forms.....) If the guy has a nice face, with nice eyes, I will like him. If the guy has a great personality and I get to see the personality well then it doesn't matter what the guy looks like.



aphexsam	Sep 29 2010, 11:53 AM Post #21
Woof Woof Woofies! Posts: 705 Group: Members Member #8 Joined: July 20, 2010	Only saw her once today. I was walking up the stairs to Tutorial and boom she was right there in my face. There was a brief opportunity to smile then but I'm such a fucking idiot than I'm too stunned and nervous too. She was gone instantly, not sure if she even noticed me. I just want to be able to make eye contact with her and give her a smile, is that too much to ask?



TheMonty646	Sep 29 2010, 12:48 PM Post #22
Chicka Bow! Posts: 1,383 Group: Members Member #54 Joined: July 29, 2010	Thank you everyone. Aph, do you have any classes with her? Do both you and her have, say, a Facebook? If so, strike up a facebook conversation about work, or some test, or just up and up compliment her.



Lemmiwinks	Sep 29 2010, 01:23 PM Post #23
I Just Got Nommed Posts: 263 Group: Members Member #156 Joined: September 20, 2010	Not that I want to be the party pooper, but are you sure you're going to even like her? Not physically, it's quite obvious she gets you excited I mean as a person. Angelic beauty and curvaceous body don't guarantee an interesting and enjoyable personality. Your relationship isn't going to last long if you cannot find anything you share or have in common. There are always plenty of independent girls with colourful thoughts around you, you just have to look beyond the slightly bolstered body and average looks. I find that the more "unusual" ones tend to be the most surprising and unique But, if you really insist on hooking up with that one girl, I'd see who she hangs around with in school and try to find possible connections with her friends. Maybe one of them goes to the same class with you. If yes, you can start random innocent conversations about homework, any handouts you missed, "may I borrow your pen", maybe ask her to show you her notebook because "you missed something", make a few comments about the teacher or the latest task and share any fun facts you know about the current topic. If everything goes smoothly and you feel secure enough, eventually ask her about that one girl you saw in the hall with her. Now please excuse me while I go and hide in shame, I feel like a manipulative little bastard for giving you such advice. Oh, and congratulations Monty! You do realize we're not going to let you go without showing pictures, right? :lol:



TheMonty646	Sep 29 2010, 02:00 PM Post #24
Chicka Bow! Posts: 1,383 Group: Members Member #54 Joined: July 29, 2010	Curses. I have to find that cord for my camera.



Sinovera	Sep 29 2010, 03:03 PM Post #25
Administrator Posts: 1,209 Group: Admin Member #1 Joined: July 19, 2010	lol Lemmiwinks.. that's not manipulative. People use those tactics to meet new people in school all the time. I knew a guy who was really smart but went around asking people for help anyways... just so he could make a connection of some kind with them. Borrowing stuff is a good way to start the little connection. Asking to borrow a pen is actually a good way to call to her attention that there exists a being such as you :P. Not manipulative at all in my opinion. Just.. be sure to move on from this step because continuous borrowing makes for an annoyed person. Walking in hallways and hoping to get her attention there.... not a good idea... or at least a usually not very successive idea. Most people are just focused on where they're going in hallways. I know when I went to high school I'd walk by people I knew without even noticing them and vice versa.



aphexsam	Sep 29 2010, 03:06 PM Post #26
Woof Woof Woofies! Posts: 705 Group: Members Member #8 Joined: July 20, 2010	First the smile, just to see if she reciprocates. If it becomes a regular thing, us smiling at each other in the corridors I might approach her and try to speak to her, strike up a conversation then meekly ask her out. Thats alot of maybes and will take alot of guts but she's worth it :P. She's actually not what the majority of people I know would describe as "typically" beautiful (Isn't a heavily tanned blonde D-cup shaped like an hourglass with bright blue eyes). She's very slender and slim, graceful almost. Quite tall for a girl, dark hair, pale skin, dark eyes. She's really sultry and mysterious. Haha there's poetry :P:/. from what I've seen and know of her she seems quite quiet but is confident nonetheless for someone who's just moved to a new country. I really feel for her but it tears me up inside at the thoguht of rejection. I'm not good looking, I'm not ugly either (or at least I don't think I am) I'm just plain, that guy in the crowd who's nervous as f*** :/. She makes me so happy though and she probably doesn't even think about me no where near as much as I do about her (can't sleep, revise, play sport, play games, watch TV without thinking of her....basically everything I enjoy/ have to do is taken up by thinking of her.) Her english isn't very good, she has to attend special classes to learn some more so hopefully I could help with that. I jsuth ope she doesn't think I'm some creep/stalker given I am posting about her on an internet forum. Such is what happens when your'e besot by such beauty. Edit- I don't want to just randomly approach her though, wouldn't that be weird?. She's always outside my tutorial at the end of lunch so I'll see if we can make eye contact then, or she might jsut catch me staring at her as I have numerous times before :P.



Monstarcookie	Sep 29 2010, 03:59 PM Post #27
Posts: 2,345 Group: Moderator Member #4 Joined: July 20, 2010	just smiling at her all the time might make her unsure of herself. Maybe she starts thinking there's something wrong with her. I think you got it made with her being new in school. Just say something like "hey, I heard you're new here. I'm Sam. If you need any help with anything just ask." That's kinda like..neutral.....you just want to help a new girl out. After that you can smile and say hello, and stuff. Then she probably won't find it strange if you ask her out to show the town and stuff.



AndMyAxe414	Sep 29 2010, 08:16 PM Post #28
Chicka Bow! Posts: 1,713 Group: Banned Member #3 Joined: July 20, 2010	My advice: Walk up to her, say "Hey, I hope to bone you in the near future", and note her reaction. Laughing: Tail for the lot of us. Terror: Most likely a trip to the local correctional facility.



Magicklorelai	Sep 30 2010, 01:10 AM Post #29
I Just Got Nommed Posts: 220 Group: Members Member #52 Joined: July 29, 2010	It's hard to say. The only time I've ever felt particularly drawn towards anyone romantically was a good friend of mine. I mostly knew him online, so it wasn't a matter of physical attraction (heck, that wouldn't have factored in anyway. Thank you, asexuality!). I came to care for him a great deal, because we meshed so well and connected on a very deep level. I had what you refer to as "limerence" with him. Unfortunately, he also had a girlfriend through most of this time, so I never said anything. Sadly, after a while of him hanging out with a bunch of other privileged White Upper-middle-class Men, his misogynistic side really came out a lot more. He'd been treating his girlfriend like crap (she was also a friend of mine), and I fell out of love (limerence?) with him. So did she. The idealization of someone else through the feeling of having a crush is precisely why it's treated as immature, instead of taken as seriously. If you don't know someone, you can't really love them. Even if you're charmed by them or how they look, it's not a feeling stemming from a deep connection on a personal level. Basically, go for it. If she turns you down for being you, or for being nervous, then she's not "the one". But you'll never know unless you say something.



aphexsam	Sep 30 2010, 02:13 AM Post #30
Woof Woof Woofies! Posts: 705 Group: Members Member #8 Joined: July 20, 2010	I foudn this online about telling a girl you like her "Make eye contact and smile. Eye contact is a perfect way to let a girl know you like her without saying so. Look her in the eyes, don't shy away and don't check her out below the neck at this particular time. If she meets your eyes, smiles back or blushes, then you may have a chance. If she frowns or gives you that "what the heck?" look, back off for a while. Remember though, she may get a lot of attention from men, so that look may be automatic if you are a stranger or near stranger. Don't give up hope over one little frown, maybe she has something in her shoe? Wait a while and try again later. Don't forget to tell jokes just make her laugh. It's the ultimate ice- breaker" Confidence seems to be the key. Hopefully I'll get to see her today but I have a full day so I'm unsure.


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