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| beastman721 | Feb 14 2012, 04:53 PM Post #151 |
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Chicka Bow!
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I ate a bunch of chocolates... alone.
Edited by beastman721, Feb 14 2012, 04:54 PM.
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| nlbarrie | Feb 20 2012, 07:54 AM Post #152 |
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I Just Got Nommed
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Hi all, So it's been awhile since I posted here so here it goes. I've been really happy with the job I got at uni, not only has it kept my mind of the events of the past few months, it has also been very inspiring. Now the reason for this post is I was wanting your opinions on something. Now, whenever my friends ask how I'm going I generally just push the question aside and say I'm fine, this means that nearly all my friends have no idea about my personal life, or anything thats happened ove the last few months. Over the last few weeks one of best friends has been getting worried about me (I think she knows more than she lets on about my mum, and wants me to tell her myself), and has been asking me to talk to her about my personal life, as she doesn't really know much. Every now and then I am tempted to tell her things, but I never have the strength to, and I don't want to worry her with my problems. This has got me questioning whether my friends are actually my friends or not. Not due to them but because of myself not being able to open up and allow them to hear my problems; aren't friends supposed to share their problems so they can provide each other with support. But do they reallly want to hear that. I don't really want to tell them all whats going on because of how it may effect how they act around me or think of me, and also so they don't have to worry. Idk I'm just confused at the moment... EDIT: sorry it's another poorly written post, I just didn't know how to write these things down Edited by nlbarrie, Feb 20 2012, 07:55 AM.
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| emmalong | Feb 20 2012, 02:07 PM Post #153 |
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Neener Neener Neener
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well if your reluctant to tell your 'friends' stuff about you then i say you should question who your 'friends' are because a true real friend will listen to you and help you . someone can have 100 fake friends , and another person has 10 real friends , take your pick |
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| MDS | Feb 20 2012, 03:01 PM Post #154 |
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I Just Got Nommed
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HUGGLES FOR EVERY PERSON HERE. SERIOUSLY. |
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| Zyan | Feb 20 2012, 06:15 PM Post #155 |
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If we're going by fake friends and real friends, I have no friends. |
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| nlbarrie | Feb 21 2012, 01:20 AM Post #156 |
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It's not that they won't listen, it's that I find it hard to 'open up' to people. Basically I was just asking if you guys thought I should attempt to talk to them, and tell them what has been going on for the last few years, or should I not tell them so that they don't have to be burdened with my problems. |
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| Velitie | Feb 21 2012, 02:42 AM Post #157 |
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Neener Neener Neener
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I feel like I should say something along the lines of 'everyone needs a shoulder to cry on sometimes' but I'm not sure if that's true... If talking about it makes you feels better then you should talk about it. If ignoring it makes you feel better then ignore it. As for whether your friends are your friends or not, well, you have to understand that people deal with things in different ways. The girl you talk about in your post, I imagine that she either wants to know about your problems because she cares about you, or she's a nosy bitch (I think the first one is more likely.) If you don't want to share everything with her does that mean you aren't her friend? I don't know. "Friend" Is a hard word to describe, especially in a dictionary type format. By my own definition, then yes, you two are friends. Your other friends on the other hand don't seem to notice that you're not fine. Maybe that's just because they don't know how to deal with it. If a person says their fine then people naturally assume that they either are actually fine, or that they don't want others to get involved in their lives. Sorry about the disorder and bad grammar, spelling, whatever else is wrong with it... I'm really sleppy at the moment. Nighty night. |
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| Monstarcookie | Feb 21 2012, 04:04 AM Post #158 |
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I think they are your friends. They worry about you already, asking if you're fine. I think you should open up to this girl and tell her how you feel. Tell her you're also worried she will treat you differently if you tell her. I'm sure she'll understand and she'll be able to help you more. You may feel relieved that someone knows, you're not alone. Go for it is my opinion
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| nlbarrie | Feb 21 2012, 05:59 AM Post #159 |
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Thanks for the reassurance ![]() That's similar to what I was thinking, but it is so hard to make the first step, as I have had a barrier (so to speak) between my friends and personal life for so long, I'm kind of afraid of bridging the gap... I will try and do it some time soon, i think... |
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| ReptilePZ | Feb 21 2012, 12:51 PM Post #160 |
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Big Sweaty Moose Bleepers
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I never trouble people with my own problems (unless it's silly and is for teh lulz).
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| MDS | Feb 22 2012, 02:02 PM Post #161 |
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You never share your burdens? I can't imagine never talking about my problems to anyone.
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| ReptilePZ | Feb 22 2012, 03:11 PM Post #162 |
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Big Sweaty Moose Bleepers
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Meh, I try to keep my problems out of convos. Obv if I need some help with something that I simply can't do on my own I ask for help ... or if I'm too lazy to do it...
Edited by ReptilePZ, Feb 22 2012, 03:41 PM.
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| MDS | Feb 22 2012, 03:13 PM Post #163 |
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I Just Got Nommed
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Hmm, thats a respectable attitude to have. (Execpt maybe the lazy part) |
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| beastman721 | Feb 22 2012, 03:40 PM Post #164 |
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Chicka Bow!
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This. |
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| Zyan | Feb 22 2012, 03:41 PM Post #165 |
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What Reppy said. ...without the lazy part. Edited by Zyan, Feb 22 2012, 03:41 PM.
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