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Topic Started: Jan 19 2012, 03:09 AM (12,664 Views)
Pong
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Neener Neener Neener
Honestly, I was bullied from third grade and my tip. Talk to one of the teachers it's actually illegal in many states and if they've made any threats or something along those lines report it to the police.

Now you might say the this is a bit to drastic it's not, depending on what they say and do it's a criminal offence and can result in jail, if I was smart enough to catch my bullies on tape they'd be serving jail time right now. It might not be something all that bad for you but it can leave an emotional scar for people like it did for me. It ruined most of my youth and school time and ruined my self confidence. I'd take it up with the principal or something in the lines of a counsellor and talk about legal action if that's necessary. I promise you, they are all cowards and probably shit for brains, they don't care about what you say, they will care what either a lawyer or police say, my bullies got real fucking scared when we mentioned the police and just went silent.
 
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I was bullied aswell. Some of the girls made snide remarks on how I was so fat I didn't really need to eat. Never to my face tho, just loud enough so I could hear it. I never said anything to them and they didn't make the snide remarks that often. The worst bullies were the guys. Especially this one little guy was the bane of my existence. He would gather friends and say really mean things. I never showed him I was sad or scared or intimidated. In fact I gave back as much as he gave me, and I dare say I was better at it. He used to tease me bout everything: my weight, the fact that I skipped school a lot, and later on when we actually went to separate school, he teased me cuz in the same building as my school was, was a school for...people with difficulties. I got my sweet sweet revenge when a year later he ended up in that very school. Sure, he was closer and got to bully me more, but HE was also bullied. He got picked up by the older guys and thrown around like a sack of potaters. In the end we both knew I was better of, smarter, more succesful and with more friends. And he was in the school for disabilities for being stupid. Muahahahahahahaaa!

Sorry, I got a bit carried away. I learned that standing up for myself didn't make the problem go away. Ignoring the problem didn't make it go away. Talking to a teacher about it didn't make it go away. Endure, and know that you are very loved and the bullies are totally wrong.
 
Unfie
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Big Sweaty Moose Bleepers
I was bullied a lot when I was in middle school before puberty really decided to lend my sorry ass a hand. Those were the first two years or so when I joined these forums. Fact is, people are usually gonna be assholes in school. It's a fucking unholy trinity of insecurity, raging hormones, and glorified social standing in a school mostly full of shithead kids who probably couldn't tell you who the second president of the United States was.

Personally I'm very careful who I choose to be my friends. Even if people are nice to you, if they're assholes/bullies to other people, then they're just assholes. Don't sugarcoat it. I'm waiting eagerly for college. Hopefully the atmosphere is kinder.

 
thewryness
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Chicka Bow!
Sadly, cyberbullying has made the situation even worse. What gets me sometimes are the kids who threaten to launch a bully report and then laugh and say 'just a joke.' Unfortunately, too many kids are not around to find it funny. Too many kids are taking the snide comments to heart and dying long before their time. I got teased a bit (we're in the same boat, Monstarcookie!) and just learned to shut everybody out. Must've frustrated the people who actually wanted to be my friend but hindsight is 20/20.
Remember that there's a long future ahead of you and that school, though the most powerful memory you're likely to have, is not the only one.
Yeah... does this even make sense? :unsure:
 
Pong
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So something came up now that i kinda know how to deal with and kinda don't. Long story short, i just met up with an old childhood fried of mine by accident, it was sorta fun and all but i find him to be annoying, really annoying. He seemd really happy to meet me and we talked for a good bit and ate a pizza, but the more i spoke to him the more i got annoyed with him, you see he is really insecure or was at least so he always tries adapt to people and his surrounding to just blend in i guess.

This can probably be me just thinking he is like maybe he isn't but it annoys me since it's a side of me i hate, or at least how i was, as they say you get annoyed at people who are like you or something. I just can't deal with it and he wants to hang out so it's either just don't hang out or just endure it, enduring it would mean that i practice my social skills and just stop being such a fucking coward, but then again i just get annoyed out of my mind when i spend time with him.
 
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Honestly, I may not be the most qualified person to give you advice on this. Not only because, unlike you, I chose to be asocial, and to push people away from me, and I still do (or it's more like I have such an "established character" at this point that I barely have to think about it anymore), but also because I'm very... blunt, in the way I deal with people I don't like... Sure, sometimes (and this is rarely), there'll really be this guy I just feel too sorry for, that I can't turn him down, but this is even more rarely a long-term thing.

If it's like in your situation, where you've known the guy and have been friendly before, then what I usually end up doing is freezing them out. Even if you add them on facebook and stuff, as long as they're not the type of person to come to your house, this pretty much solves the problem by itself. Otherwise, I just keep on being an ass, like I always am, and they will realize that they don't actually want to be with me.

Tbh, I wouldn't even consider spending time with someone who I dislike or annoys me, even to practice my social skills in a situation like that. It might just be me, but I think that'd lead you to basically have social skills which aren't "proper", so to speak, because this is something you've gained from spending time with someone you dislike, not by hanging out with people who you like to be with, who you feel happy and safe and all around (getting2deep now).

This kinda lead nowhere, but you know what I mean... Probably...
 
beastman721
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Chicka Bow!
Well I figured I might get some things off my chest about my personal life, particularly as it pertains to my job. I just feel like... kind of at a standstill. About a year and a half ago (January 2013) I started working full-time for a small business, the salary isn't much but considering I was making a grand total of $0 before I took the job I saw it as a huge plus in my life. I come from modest means, and by that I mean I'm pretty much poor, lower middle class at best and my salary is depended on by my parents to pay for some bills, etc. Basically I don't really get to save what I make, which is fine but sometimes frustrating.

Anyway, I haven't finished college because I simply couldn't afford it (college in the US is insanely expensive) so taking the job was very important for me. Without going into specifics, I work for a company that prepares title searches for companies who then close on them. It's part of the real estate process, we gather things like deeds and mortgages and type up reports on them. The company is small (3 people including me) but we do a lot of work across the entire State of New York, and as such I have a lot of responsibilities.

Since I started working, I have not received a raise in pay, despite me asking twice now, first time was well over a year after I had been working. My boss essentially told me that the company didn't take in enough for me to get a raise, which is frustrating because I tend to think otherwise (I also handle company billing). Regardless, my boss is very wealthy, and lives in one of the most exclusive areas in the country, basically she can absolutely afford to give me a raise.

Now I wouldn't have asked for a raise if I didn't think I deserved it, I'm a hard worker and I do really good work and it's enormously frustrating for me to commute (a long distance) in to work every day knowing this.

I'm just upset, and frustrated and as much as I try to stay positive it's just so hard to do so. Sometimes I feel like a complete failure and I'm just embarrassed to be me (if that makes sense) . I know I have to keep my head up and keep at it, but it's like every time I have a positive though it's immediately met by some kind of negative thought. I've made up my resume, and I'm gonna try and see what's out there. The point is, I'm trying to get my ass back in school and get a degree, but I have to make much more money to do so. In way I almost have to make it just to get back to school, it's hard but it is what it is. I don't mind paying my dues at all, but it's been almost two years now and it's just gone nowhere. Regardless, I now have almost two years of legit work experience, which is going to help me a lot going forward.

Sorry if that sounded whiny, I just get so upset sometimes about my situation, it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I have to keep my head up, but damn it feels good to get this off my chest, thanks folks.
 
TheSamuraiElf
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You don't sound whiny, your situation legitimately sucks. It's good to vent sometimes. When you say you have negative thoughts are they like about how the future is going to turn out or about yourself? Cause both can be a drag.
Edited by TheSamuraiElf, Oct 21 2014, 10:52 PM.
 
beastman721
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Chicka Bow!
Yeah just negative thoughts about my future and what I'm going to make of myself. It's like everytime I try to think positive thoughts I automatically come up with a bunch of negative ones to shoot myself down.
 
Unfie
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Your boss kind of sounds like a bitch, dude. I don't know how realistic this would be for you, but if things don't change are you considering the possibility of looking for another job? I guess that could be considered a major gamble. It sounds to me like your boss is a detached and manipulative shit anyway. You deserve better man.

I hate the U.S. education system. It's extortionate and the crippling debt is just hell on earth. Not looking forward to that aspect of college.
 
beastman721
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Chicka Bow!
Definitely looking for a new job. Got my resume together and everything, it's time.
 
thewryness
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Chicka Bow!
beastman721
Oct 22 2014, 11:32 AM
Definitely looking for a new job. Got my resume together and everything, it's time.
Best of luck to you, Chris. It's not easy to break free of a frustrating situation but you can do it. :)
 
beastman721
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Thanks for the support Wry, it means a lot.
 
beastman721
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Chicka Bow!
It's been a pretty busy week for me work-wise and as I've put together my resume all of a sudden I just got a huge boost in confidence. It's like seeing all of my responsibilities and everything written out just made me realize I could be a valuable asset to some company in my field, and probably get paid a whole lot more than I do now.

I've tried to change my mindset and think more positively about my situation and the bottom line is that no matter how much work sucks, at some point I'm going to get a job for another company, get paid well and be able to get my butt back in school and get a degree. Just gotta keep on truckin'.

Thanks for listening guys, I really really appreciate it.
 
Unfie
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Big Sweaty Moose Bleepers
Hell yeah, good luck. Find a job that's better suited to your skills Beast, no watered down shit.
 
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