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Topic Started: Jan 19 2012, 03:09 AM (12,654 Views)
Zyan
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Pong
Jul 6 2015, 01:17 AM
That's something that botherd me. The fact that people don't use first names. In sweden you always use first names unless your meeting some dignity. I might have problems going abroad.
Same way in the US, except in professional settings.
 
Pong
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Don't know if I've said anything about it buy i quit my work practice thingy. Was supposed to be hired but the boss was a shithead and i didn't work out. So now i'm looking for work again.

It's confusing, they want experienced people to work in stores picking up shit on shelves, not just worked before in the store, like actual degrees and shit, if someone is that fucking overqualified for that kind of work, i think they pay way to little to be asking for people like that.

What also sucks is that i have no drivers licence since it's a fucking pain to get but everyone wants you t have one to work in a store in the middle of the city, like it's easier to take the rail-cart in or just a fucking buss.
 
Monstarcookie
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yeah I have that problem too. I don't have a drivers license and I can't get one cuz it's way too expensive but most jobs require you to not only have a license but a car as well....
 
Lethargus
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Pong
Jul 21 2015, 08:02 AM
Don't know if I've said anything about it buy i quit my work practice thingy. Was supposed to be hired but the boss was a shithead and i didn't work out. So now i'm looking for work again.

It's confusing, they want experienced people to work in stores picking up shit on shelves, not just worked before in the store, like actual degrees and shit, if someone is that fucking overqualified for that kind of work, i think they pay way to little to be asking for people like that.

What also sucks is that i have no drivers licence since it's a fucking pain to get but everyone wants you t have one to work in a store in the middle of the city, like it's easier to take the rail-cart in or just a fucking buss.
Ya, I've run into these problems as well. It's fucking stupid how many companies wants you to own a DL to get a job that is in no way related to owning a car. I'd rather take the bus/train any day.
 
thewryness
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Sorry to hear that things didn't work out, Pong. Were you supposed to make a report for the work practice thing? Did you mention that your boss was a total douchewaffle? Also, you shouldn't need a degree to stock shelves. Hope things work out for you, dude.
 
beastman721
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Hopefully you can end up getting a job in an office somewhere, no reason why you can't. Whatever happens we have your back, you can do it, it won't be easy but you can get a better job and hopefully your superiors aren't total assholes. Shitty bosses suck, prove em wrong and get a nice gig and you won't even think about them anymore.
 
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So lately I've been feeling this real swell of emotion and it's something I just need to vent I guess.

Work's been goong real well, about a month or so my boss asked me to assume some more responsibilities, and it's been going good so far. I've got nice clothes now, I just got myself a nice new pair of eyeglasses and The bottom line is I'm still not happy.

I know this sounds really shallow, bit it's the truth and it's driving me crazy. It's just so damn lonely. All the time I feel like I'm in the ring alone and no one else is on my corner. I'm always moody and I lash out at family a lot more.... My mom and sister keep telling me I need to get help from a therapist... I just don't know what to do.

I'm just not happy and I don't know what to do about it. Being 23 and still single really isn't helping either. I'm just going to try and pursue something that makes me happy.... I've thought about maybe trying to exercise again, I need another emotional outlet.
Edited by beastman721, Jul 22 2015, 08:54 PM.
 
Pong
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Don't want to bring you down even more, but feeling lonely is pretty normal. I'd say a therapist ain't a bad option if you're really feeling blue, but as easy as it sounds something that is rather difficult for most of us here, at least my guess.
Try new shit, not a new game or something, just do something random. No idea about cash but allot of things ain't that expensive, and i think you need to meet more people, I'm just the same as you that i feel fine when i work but the home time sucks ass, honestly try shit out. I have a ton of time but i don't really do stuff so i just end up sitting here behind this computer. Whats worse is that i'm the kind of person that doesn't get passionate about anything, i just get mildly interested and then the interest fades away, same with people. I feel kinda annoyed that no one talks with me but, the phone/messenger or what ever you're using works both ways. I've said it before and i'll say it again, i'l play with you or just talk if you feel like it. Though probably best if we keep away from online games, I kinda get angry when playing....
 
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Join a group and do stuff Chris! Have you thought about Toastmasters? Going up and giving speeches and learning how to give a speech on just about anything. Join a sports league (bowling, hockey, etc...) or do small talk at the gym. And how's your friendship with that young lady going at work? Maybe you guys could start doing stuff together after work (not drinks or anything but other activities) if you get close enough. Apologies if that sounded wrong in any way. :$
I'm not very good at following my own advice but I love solitude and I've been used it to it for a long time. Still, if the loneliness is starting to get to you, get to talking with someone - be it a counsellor or somebody else. And of course there's always this forum if you want to chat on Skype. :)
 
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beastman721
Jul 22 2015, 08:51 PM
So lately I've been feeling this real swell of emotion and it's something I just need to vent I guess.

Work's been goong real well, about a month or so my boss asked me to assume some more responsibilities, and it's been going good so far. I've got nice clothes now, I just got myself a nice new pair of eyeglasses and The bottom line is I'm still not happy.

I know this sounds really shallow, bit it's the truth and it's driving me crazy. It's just so damn lonely. All the time I feel like I'm in the ring alone and no one else is on my corner. I'm always moody and I lash out at family a lot more.... My mom and sister keep telling me I need to get help from a therapist... I just don't know what to do.

I'm just not happy and I don't know what to do about it. Being 23 and still single really isn't helping either. I'm just going to try and pursue something that makes me happy.... I've thought about maybe trying to exercise again, I need another emotional outlet.
I'd say feeling lonely shouldn't call the need for a therapist. Many people feel lonely today, it's perfectly normal, especially at your age. It's when it starts affecting your life in other areas that you should be more worried, like work. I'm not saying you shouldn't listen yo your family though, if they want you to see a therapist. They are probably just trying to help the best they can. You say you feel moody, so just the act of seeing a therapist could lighten up your mood, even though it might be short term. Also, you shouldn't feel bad for being single at 23. There's no actual pressure for you to find a girlfriend, if that's what you're feeling. Most relationships at this age usually don't last long anyway, as most people really don't want to be dependent on someone else. Though if having a girlfriend could lighten up your mood, i don't see why not. Exercise is also a great way to become generally happier. You'll always become feel better mentally after exercising, since your brain increases its Dopamine production, thus making you happier, as well as other chemical changes. It's like a "shortcut" to become more happy, though it takes some willpower to actually get started.
 
LayzKem
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I'm with Pong here, feeling lonely is normal. I used to be really sociable, now, not so much. I used to feel angry when my friends went out without me and didn't even think about calling me sometimes, but when they call me now, my usual answer is "no" .. because i don't drink nor do i smoke anymore, that's pretty much what we used to do. I cut down my friends from many to only 3 i regularly talk to. When you get older you start to figure out who you want to be associated with and what do you want to do with your free time, during that process .. it's normal to feel lonely.

Start going to the gym, like we previously suggested. Gym cured my depression, it will cure your loneliness, even though you rarely chat there.


Why does that "still single" thing bother you so much?
Edited by LayzKem, Jul 23 2015, 09:23 AM.
 
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I'd say, ask your co-workers what they usually do during their free time, see if they can suggest you something fun. Ask for directions if you don't know where the place is, rather than look it up on google :P If you're lucky, they may even ask you to come along^^
 
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Pick up the bass again, beastbro! Music is the BEST emotional outlet, honestly. When you pick up an instrument, after a little while, you're somewhere else, lost in whatever fantasies the music is drawing you to. A close second is the gym, like Kem said. I'd recommend, if you have one in your area, to go to a small one, not a big sprawling gym. Even if you don't want to, it kind of forces people to talk to one another now and then, and it forms a sense of community in a strange, but intimate way.

But like wry said, I'd also look into groups and activities around your area as well, even if it doesn't seem very appealing to you at first, you can be surprised by what comes of team-oriented activities like sports, etc.

Don't trick yourself into thinking you need a therapist. In the end, it's your choice whether or not you need that. Put yourself out there and see what happens dude. The greatest way to inspire happiness and, more importantly, hope, is to have something you know you're building toward. Whether that's your skill with an instrument, making your body look how you want at the gym, or any other activity, doing these activities and focusing on how you're nurturing them for the future is HUGE for confidence and hope.

Whenever I play piano or go to the gym, I just smile in my mind and think, I know I'm building toward someone better, even if no one else does. Let them be surprised.
Edited by Unfie, Jul 23 2015, 10:37 AM.
 
beastman721
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Wow thanks guys, I reached out to an old friend and we're going to have lunch next week in the city and catch up, I feel really good about this.
Edited by beastman721, Jul 23 2015, 09:24 PM.
 
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Great news, Beastman. Hope you have a great time with a lot of laughs.
 
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